Good Medicine

Tyler and I see our marriage counselor every 6-12 months "whether we need it or not!"

We've been seeing the same guy since our pre-marital counseling sessions almost 10 years ago. When we finished up the number of sessions required by our pastor Tyler said, "We'll see you in 6 months." And that was that.

It's been a good thing to have a routine check-up that doesn't require a blow-up, a catastrophe or a melt-down as the initiating factor. Fortunately, we have managed to avoid many grave situations that can occur in marriage, but I never cease to be amazed that I leave most meetings having learned something new about my husband, having learned something new about the psychology of relationships and having expressed something that would have been otherwise unspoken.

I tell you all of that as an encouragement, just like I would tell you if we were face-to-face talking about marriage. I hope that in some small way I can normalize "marriage counseling" so that marriages are better and stronger and, perhaps, even some marriages will be saved.

Marriage should be honored by all (Heb 13:4)

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Kerry Cliburn said…
Oh Donita! I loved your bra story. You are not alone in this quest for a good fitting bra. (that doesn't break the bank!) It's all an evil plot by men I'm sure. haha It has to be if all their stuff fits without even trying it on!!! Thanks for sharing and making me laugh today. :)Kerry
January 7, 2011 at 2:10 PM
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